Proposal; Fostering the Mawaddah Family in Islam
BAB I
PRELIMINARY
A. Background Problem
Man in the process of development requires a spouse who can give
offspring in accordance with what is desired. This process is regulated in
religion through marriage. Marriage is a bond or contract that justifies
the relationship of a man and woman who before the contract is still regulated
in moral norms. A legitimate marriage leads to respectful relations of men
and women according to human positions as honorable beings. [1]
Islam regulates marital life perfectly because this problem is a
very vital subject matter. Through human marriage can love each other,
create a family relationship and continue the descent. Marital life is the
first industry for the aftermath to further the industry. [2]
Wisdom created by Allah SWT man in pairs of different shapes and
properties, is that each need each other, need each other, so that life can
develop next. [3]
Loving a partner is an adult before age, and a difficult
impulse. Therefore, the religion emphasizes the establishment of a meeting
between men and women, directing the meeting so that the implementation of the
marriage and the distraction of men and women becomes tranquil. [4]
The agreement made by a Muslim to make a Muslim as a wife, is a
covenant made in the name of Allah Swt. Therefore, living as husband and
wife is not merely a bond made based on a covenant with a human being, with the
wali of the woman and with the whole family as well as with her own, but more
importantly is to make a covenant with God . Therefore, marriage is one of
the signs of Allah SWT. [5]
In relation to the explanation above, this is as the word of Allah
Swt in the letter ar-Rum verse 21 that is:
And from his signs is that He created for you from among yourselves
husbands to dwell in, and to make between you affection and mercy, in that
there are signs for those who think (Romans 21:
It means: "And
among the signs of His power is that He created for you wives from your own
body, that ye may incline and be confident in Him, and make Him of you kindness
and affection. Verily in this is indeed a sign for those who think
"(QS Ar-Rum: 21).
The verse describes the fabric of tranquility, compassion and
compassion as a tranquility needed by each individual male and female when away
from his partner. Every married couple, of course, desperately want the
happiness present in their home life, there is peace, tranquility, comfort and
compassion. The home of the heaven of the world is not synonymous with the
overflow of matter, happiness is not an impossibility to achieve, because
happiness is the choice and fruit of the way of thinking and
attitude. Therefore, only with his partner he can enjoy the sweetness of
love and the beauty of love and longing. [6]
Islam makes the family a place for self-preservation, which
creates peace and safety from all forms of evil generated by others, so that
the family should be a place full of happiness for all family members to feel
at home and always lie. According to the word of God in Surah An-Nahl
verse 80:
And God made you from
your homes dwelling (bees: 80)
Meaning: "And God
made for you houses as a dwelling place" (QS An-Nahl: 80).
To realize the family as above, must be together between husband
and wife to perpetuate love which is a gift from God, because it can not be
denied that the quality of husband and wife relationship in the household
greatly affect the family into sakinah mawaddah wa rahmah. [7] The life of a husband and wife is the formula of the
happiness of the world. Then create a happy family to live in a happy
world too. [8]
Therefore, married couples must both keep each other and respect
the marital bond that has been made as a sacred bond. This is meant to
make the marriage strong, so strong binders are needed.
When viewed in terms of Islamic Education, sakinah family coaching
contains educational values that offer peace of mind and peace of mind, so
that men and women can live together in love, affection, bitterness in life,
harmonious, cooperation, mutual advise and tolerant laid the foundation of
lifting the Islamic family in a sustainable and healthy environment.
Based on the above thoughts, the authors are interested to try to
pour the problem into a scientific paper in the form of a thesis with the
title: "Strategy of Mawaddah Family Development In Islam".
B. Problem
Formula
To be more focused and focused in the discussion, then in that
case the authors will formulate two main issues in this discussion. The
formulation of the problem is as follows:
1.
How is the strategy of
fostering mawaddah family in the perspective of Islamic education?
2.
What efforts should be
made in fostering the family mawaddah according to the perspective of Islamic
education?
C. Explanation
of Terms
Each term contains a different meaning. To avoid errors in
giving meaning to the term in this writing, the authors describe the meaning of
the term. The terms that need to be described in the title of this writing
are as follows:
1. Strategy
Literally, the word "strategy" can be defined as art
( art ) implement Stratagem that strategy or
plan, while according to Reber , defines strategy as a plan of
action consisting of a set of steps to solve a problem or achieve a goal. [9] Strategy is a way or a method, whereas in general the
strategy has the sense of a major outline to act in an effort to achieve a
predetermined goal . [10]
The strategy that the author intends in this writing is a planned
process to perform an action in the form of business in order to obtain results
as expected.
2. Construction
Coaching is an effort made consciously, planned, organized and
directed to improve the knowledge, attitude and skills of the students with
guidance, guidance. [11]
The coaching that is intended in this writing is the effort made
teachers consciously, planned and directed in an effort to foster a happy
family in a marriage in accordance with the guidance of Islam.
3. Family
The family is a system of life of the smallest society that is
restricted by the presence of descendants. [12] According
to Ramayulis, the definition of family is seen as operational is a special
structure that has a bond through blood and marriage. [13]
While the family that the author meant in this writing is a bond
between men and women who are bound in the form of marriage bonds based on
Islamic guidance.
4. Mawaddah
The definition of mawaddah according to Imam Ibn Katsir is al-mahabbah (love). In
the al-Alus interpretation the writer quotes Hasan, Mujahid and Ikrimah's
opinion which states that mawaddah is the meaning of kinayah from marriage jima
'as a consequence of marriage. [14] In other
sources it is explained that mawaddah by language means love or hope. In a
marriage, love is the essential thing that must exist and always exists in a
couple, and mawaddah means always love both in love and sadness. [15]
Based on the explanation above, it can be understood that mawaddah
is a sense of love or expectation between spouses to get sophisticated in the
development of a marriage bond between the spouse is to obtain the brilliance,
peace in the household.
5. Islamic
Education
Education comes from the word "educate". Educate
the same as educating and giving practice (the teachings of leadership) about
morals and intelligence of reason. [16] In
educational psychology mentioned education is a process of growth that takes
place thanks to the conduct of learning. [17]
Sugarda Poerbakawatya explains that what is meant by education is
a form of human effort to bring the child maturity level in the sense of being
conscious in assuming the responsibility of all actions morally. [18]
While Islam is the religion of Allah SWT ordered to learn its
subjects and the syariat to Prophet Muhammad SAW and assign him to convey the
religion to all people and invite them to embrace them. [19] Further,
in the opinion of Ahmad D.Marimba defines that Islamic education is a physical
and spiritual guidance based on Islamic religious laws towards the formation of
major personalities according to the measures in Islam. [20]
The Islamic education that the author intends in the title of this
thesis is an education based on Islamic shari'ah about the formation of a
mawaddah family that is full of love and hope to get happiness in relation to
Islamic education.
D. Objectives
and Significance of Discussion
Any paper that has scientific value of course has a goal to be
achieved, as well as the writing of this thesis. Based on all the problems
formulated in the formulation of the problem, the specific objectives to be
achieved from this writing are as follows:
1. To know the strategy
of raising the mawaddah family in the perspective of Islamic education
2. To know the efforts to
be done in the fostering of mawaddah family according to the perspective of
Islamic education
The significance of this writing, is expected to provide input and
benefits as follows:
1. From
this paper can be useful for writers in particular and the husband and wife in
general in an effort to form a family mawaddah according to the perspective of
Islamic education
2. Giving
references for men and women to be able to overcome various problems of life in
navigating the ark of the household seen from the perspective of Islamic
education
E. Method
of Discussion
This study is a descriptive analysis that is
a discussion that seeks to solve all existing problems and is happening today
in relation to the sakinah family coaching and by referring to existing
scientific resources.
Method is a way or a tool to get to the goal, in pambahasan this
essay writer using Library Research method , namely
library research. This research is done by examining the materials that
are reading, such as books, magazines, books, tafsir al-Qur'an, hadith and some
other reading sources that have to do with pelahasan this thesis.
After the data collected, the authors analyze the results of the
reading and make it as a material new ideas or ideas, while the preparation of
this essay the authors guided to "Thesis Writing Guide for High School
Students of Islam (STAI) Teungku Dirundeng Meulaboh Aceh Barat, edition 2011 M
/ 1432 H ".
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Accessed Date. May 29, 2014.
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[16] Ministry of Education and Culture, Big
Indonesian Dictionary, (Jakarta: Balai Pustaka, 2002) , p. 250.
[17] HC Witherington,Educational Psychology,
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[18] Suganda Poerbakawatya,Encyclopedia of Education,
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[19] Mahmud Syartut,Al-Islam 'Aqidah Wasyari'ah, (Qairo,
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